Thursday, September 6, 2007

20 Words or Less

So I was talking today with one of the wonderful ladies mentioned in yesterday's post when she asked me a question. I'm sure I've heard it before, but I don't think I ever really considered and tried to answer before.

"In twenty words or less, what do you think you want out of a relationship?"

It's a great question. You see, it's easy to describe what you want when you have all the space in the world to do it. When you don't though? You've gotta prioritize. You have to figure out what's really important to you, 'cause there's no room to mess around. It's a much better exercise for learning about yourself than one would initially think.

I'd love to hear other people's take on it, but here's what you've gotta do to play. Stop reading now and figure out how you would answer it. I don't want my twenty words to influence yours until after you've done it on your own. It's cool, I'll still be here when you get back.

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Got it? Good. Here's mine:

"Passion, sparks, and chemistry with someone who has solid future potential, similar values/goals, and good relationship skills."

Leave yours in the comments and we'll all compare notes. :-)


Sparkles Anon! said...

Sex, comfort, peace, security, laughter, intellectual stimulation, stability (hmm, sense a theme?), and ZING.

Wow, I only used 10!

HKW said...

I hope married couples can comment.

Love, understanding, companionship. I want to laugh everyday, speak without words, be a team and endure the hard times together.

Dagny Taggart said...

He gets me, I get him, better than most. We laugh, love, build a life for us and each other.

mm said...

Trust/loyalty, support, respect, love, attraction, communication, laughter

Liz said...

Mutual understanding, good sexual chemistry, companionship, adventure, emotional support, tons of laughter, trust, compassion, surprises, minimal drama, and comfortable silences.

Glad you're back.

Lisa said...

Hmm. Trust, appreciation of each other's humor, physical and intellectual chemistry, strength.

Jo said...

Friendship, sex, laughter, trust, intelligent conversation. Someone I can fight with, and who makes me a better person.

LMNt said...

Wow. Y'all are way better at this than I am -- no wonder most of you are writers.

I somehow want to create a frankenstein monster of HKW's, Liz's, and Lisa's and then steal it as my own.

red said...

I didn't realize we could just list qualities, so in regular definition form I want..."A partnership with a man who's Catholic, intelligent, sexy, caring, funny, takes care of me, wants kids, and loves me."

Kat Wilder said...

Self-awareness, a sense of his place/ responsibility in the world, humor, smarts, good heart, good moral compass, passion, sexual energy.

If that happens to come in a hot package, yikes!!!!