How to Scare a Man Away From Marriage
Tell him there's actually a book called I'd Rather Eat Chocolate: Learning to Love My Low Libido. And that it's popular.
I know it scares the hell outta me. Eesh.
Thursday, March 15, 2007
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I love MY low libido. Fuck chocolate, it's all natural.
I won't even click on that link cause that is just sad.
I choose sex over chocolate any day.
This is so sad and disappointing to me. Not the book, the fact that you won't even read the damn description. Hello-- don't you think it would be a good idea to have some understanding of various perspectives of sex drive and it's all about working out two differring levels, not just giving up sex. Imbecils!
I read about this book in one of my magazines and I felt truly sorry for the women writing it. Not only because I am blessed with a sky high libido...but because she thinks its ok to not want sex. I guess some people are bioligically wired differently but I felt sad for her.
I mean "woman" not "women".
I've got to go with reddiekim on this one. Seriously.
I hate it when books like this generalize that women are always the ones who could do without sex and men are always the ones craving it.
For this woman - who wants, needs and craves sex constantly - it couldnt be farther from the truth.
MM -- What a terrible waste of your smokin' hot self. ;-)
Red -- Man, if I was ten years older, you'd be in some serious trouble. You were cool enough already.
ReddieKim -- Ok, as you well know, I appreciate and embrace the differences between men and women. I'm perfectly fine with adjusting to different libidos.
My issue here is that when you have a problem in your relationship, you should work together to find a solution that's acceptable to both parties, not "learn to love" it. The title of the book implies "I don't like sex -- deal with it," and the implication that she's not willing to work together with her husband and instead expects him to just deal is what scares me. Make sense?
Kassy -- Let me know if that boyfriend thing doesn't work out, k?
Kristin -- See what I said to her. It's not about the sex.
Snoopy -- I've had friends in the same situation. There's no absolute to anything in male-female interaction.
hey assholes - guess what? it IS ok to not want sex.
a low libido is not "wrong" and does not need to be "fixed." nor is a high libido "right" or "best."
and lmnt - it is not the low libido person's sole responsibility to "correct" him/herself to accommodate the high libido person. get real.
GimmeABreak -- I just don't think a sexless marriage is ok. Sorry.
My whole point here is that no one should be expected to "correct" him or herself alone. Someone with a low libido shouldn't have the sole responsibility of creating a sex drive, but someone with a high libido shouldn't be responsible for erasing theirs, either. You don't just tell your partner "I know this is important to you but I don't care -- deal with it." That's not acceptable, no matter what the problem is. The two people involved should work together to find a solution that works for both of them. And if you can't do that (in just about any area), you shouldn't get married.
That's the thing - sex is such an important part of a relationship. It's hard to imagine the imbalance wasn't there prior to marriage. I wonder if it just seemed like not such a big deal before they were married?
Well I read the description and that sounds horrible. Separate beds and fighting about porn? Yeah, great relationship. By the way, check out my new books "I Fell Down the Stairs: Learning to Love Your Abusive Husband" and "Booze and Pills: 2 Easy Steps to Forget That You Married a Controlling, Degrading Hag."
Actually this change in mentality isn't that surprising if you consider the decreased physical activity of Americans in general. I'm sure you already know that studies have shown that exercise does increase libido, and since many people's idea of exercise is walking from house to car/parking lot to office, it follows that they'd have lower sex drives. Yes, I agree that it is sad (personally, my problem is not sex drive, it's more that I'm finding myself not attracted to many guys - a result of watching too many movies with "lincoln6echo" - AKA Ewan McGregor)? :) (FYI too, cardio is what the studies refer to, not "lifting" - and cardio keeps your brain happy in other ways as well)
Approximately 44% of women suffer from some form of sexual dysfunction. Sexual dysfunction in women is characterized by a lack of desire, arousal, or orgasm. Lack of desire is considered to be the most common complaint among these women. About 20% of these women describe having difficulties with lubrication, which can be assisted by Viagra -like drugs that may increase blood flow to the genitals. http://www.besthealthmed.com/viagra_n_women.html
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