She's as Cold as Ice

Ever have one of those moments where you say something in conversation that surprises you with how dead-on it is? Where you go "man, I need to remember that"? I had such a moment last night on the phone with a friend, and from it, we created the "iceberg" concept, which I'm sure will soon become a major part of my dating vocabulary.

You see, when you go on a few dates with someone and you're just starting to get to know them, as we all know, you're seeing one side of their personality. It takes a good amount of time to really know somebody. And when you're thinking things like "would this be a good match," or "wow, we have really similar perspectives on that," you know you're getting these vibes based on those initial impressions. You don't really know enough to figure these things out for sure. That makes me very hesitant to make definitative statements. I tell my friends (or think) things along the lines of "she really strikes me as..." or "she seems like x, y, or z."

So we came up with the iceberg idea.

New people are like icebergs -- you just see a little, and the major stuff is hiding below the surface. I really like this analogy, and I'm running with it.

So from now on, there will be no more "seems like" from me. People will simply hear "yeah, she's got a great iceberg." Fun.


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