Flowers Suck

Ok, so Valentine's day was last week, and after a few conversations with female friends, apparently something needs to be reiterated for the men of the world.

Don't buy flowers for girls you barely know. And by "flowers," I mean "flower deliveries, jewelry, vacations, or any other expensive or romantic gifts," but I'm just gonna use "flowers" from here on out to encompass all of that stuff.

Seriously, they should make a law. You don't buy things for someone you've known and/or dated for less than, say, three months or so. Granted, guys who truly understand these things can break the rules, and three months is kind of an arbitrary timeframe that doesn't alway apply, but if we make it three months firm, the men who don't get it won't screw things up this way anymore.

You see, the problem is the motivation involved. You should do romantic things or give a woman a gift because you want to make her feel special. You want to make her smile. No other reason. If you do these things because you want her to think you are special because you're the type of guy who does them, you're going about it all wrong and she's gonna see right through it. Would you pay a girl to have sex with you? If not, why in the world would you try to buy her affection with gifts? It's pretty much the same thing. If a woman doesn't already think you're a special guy, it won't mean anything to her. In fact, it will come of as you treat every girl this way, there's nothing special about her, and you're desperate.

Bottom line: Earn a woman's affection and high regard for you first. Recognize her uniqueness, and let her see yours. Once you've done that, you can send all the flowers you want.


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